1. Where is your office?

I have two office locations. One is on the Upper West Side at 90th and Central Park West near the B and C train. The second office is in midtown on Madison and 40th St. near Grand Central Station, and the 4,5,6, B and D trains.

2. What are your office hours?

I see clients Monday-Friday mornings, daytimes and evenings.

3. What are the first steps to setting up an appointment?

You can email me at sari@saricooper.com or call my office 212-787-5010 leaving times and days you’re free to talk privately. Then my intake coordinator will get back to you for a 5-10 minute initial confidential conversation about the help you’re looking for, and the days and times you are free to set up an appointment.

4. What kinds of treatment do you provide?

I offer general psychotherapy, marital/couples therapy, sex therapy and coaching to individuals and couples.

5. Payment

I do not participate in any insurance networks. Clients pay me using cash or check for in person therapy sessions at the time of the session. Clients only use Paypal in advance of a coaching session to book a single session or a package of coaching sessions

6. What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy is a type of psychotherapy in which I speak to individuals and couples specifically struggling with an aspect of their sexual lives. Sex therapy does not involve any touch at all. A presenting problem could be a person wanting to address:

  • difficulty becoming aroused
  • premature/uncontrolled ejaculation
  • painful sex
  • infrequent or lack of sexual connection
  • infidelity
  • pre-marriage counseling
  • differences in levels of desire between partners
  • negotiating sexual agreements (including non-monogamy)
  • broaching a couple’s interest in kink-type sexual activities
  • trans issues

Sometimes a person comes in alone because they’re dating or not currently in a relationship. Couples may come in initially as a couple but at times one partner would prefer to begin the process on their own.

When individuals or couples come for sex therapy, I focus on the sexual complaint and find out if there are medical issues to be addressed by a doctor. I then assess the behavioral patterns that have contributed to the problem as well as any emotional or communication patterns that have developed due to the complaint. While both forms of therapy may overlap, they are distinct and different tools for coping with distress. Both sex therapy and couple’s counseling might involve learning new communication skills and emotional patterns, but with sex therapy there may also be homework assignments specifically designed to help with the sexual problem.

7. What do you treat when a couple comes in for marital/couple’s therapy and counseling?

In couple’s counseling, typically the focus is upon common relationship goals, interpersonal communication, and the general dynamic of the couple along with possible parenting concerns.

Common issues that couples present include:

  • Constant arguing without resolution
  • Power struggles
  • Infertility stress
  • Balancing parenting and relationship priorities
  • Boundary setting with in-laws and extended family
  • Negotiating religious issues
  • Infidelity
  • Emotional affairs

8. What types of conditions/issues do you treat?

I have extensive experience treating:
desire discrepancy between couples
erectile dysfunction
premature or uncontrolled ejaculation
low sexual arousal and desire disorders
difficulty attaining orgasm (for men and women)
out-of-control sexual behavior
trauma related to past sexual assault and boundary crossings
difficulty integrating sex with love in one relationship

Psychiatric issues that I have many years of experience treating include:
Panic Disorder
Social Anxiety
Bipolar Disorder
Body Dysmorphia

9. What is the difference between therapy and coaching?

Coaching is generally done by phone or Skype to address current goals people have for their relationships, work or sex life but does not treat psychiatric problems. It is present-based and does not focus as much on history or past relationships as much as it does the current relationships in a person’s life. It is a great option for people who travel a lot but want to grow in specific areas of their life.

10. What can I expect in a first visit or coaching session?

If you are calling for couples counseling or therapy you would tell me about the problem you’ve been having in more detail. I will guide you with more specific questions to get a fuller picture of the problem and will ask you (and your partner in the case of couples therapy or coaching) what your goals for treatment are. I will ask about any prior therapy, counseling or coaching experience you’ve had before. I will end the first session with some feedback on what I think the issue is and the next step in the process.

11. Are you a licensed psychotherapist?

Yes, I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and therefore licensed by New York State.

12. Do you have any certification to practice Sex Therapy?

Yes I am an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and continue my learning by attending (and presenting at) conferences, seminars and discussions to keep up with the latest research.

13. Do you have any special populations that you treat?

Yes. I work with individuals and/or couples from specific ethnicities and/or religious affiliations such as: Jewish Modern Orthodox, Jewish Hassidic, Muslim and those from the Hispanic/ Latina, Southeast Asian and European communities. I also work with clients from the LGBTQ community, the kink community, Polyamory and those couples who want to explore other types of monogamy agreements.

14. How long is a typical course of sex therapy?

There is no easy answer for this question, since each case is different, as are each person’s/couple’s needs, and these may change over the course of treatment. Some clients come in once a week, others every other week, and still others sporadically throughout the year. Some clients who live abroad may come in for a week and have an intensive course of treatment for 3-4 days before returning home and continuing to work via Skype. I have some clients I’ve seen for years, and others who only come for a few months. The duration of treatment is a highly individual matter.

15. What is NOT sex therapy?

Many people mistake sex therapy with the controversial practice of sex surrogacy. Sex surrogacy (as seen in the film The Sessions) is a type of therapy where therapist and patient engage in physical touch. That is not what occurs in my practice. Sex therapy and coaching is an opportunity to talk about challenges to one’s intimate life.

16. How does your approach differ from other therapists/coaches?

While I am fortunate to be surrounded by wonderfully intelligent colleagues, I feel my background as a dancer, choreographer and artist has given me a unique ability to view a problem as a creative dilemma. My many years of education and experience has helped me craft solutions and homeplay (versus homework) exercises for my clients to practice between sessions. I have also worked on creating and developing Sex Esteem™, a skill set that helps clients gain the confidence and knowledge with which to boldly express their deepest longings.